Betrayal Trauma & Attachment Trauma Therapy in Edmond, OK
When the person who was supposed to be safe becomes the source of your pain, trust becomes difficult, with them, others, and yourself. Whether the betrayal came from a partner's infidelity or addiction, from abuse, or from painful patterns in your family of origin, betrayal trauma and attachment trauma shake your sense of self and what you thought you could depend on in your relationship.
At Trellis Therapy, our therapists are highly trained in relational trauma and understand that these wounds happen in relationships, which means they also heal in relationships. We would be honored to come alongside you as you find your way back to safety and connection.
What you might be experiencing if
you experienced a betrayal
or relational trauma
Betrayal and attachment wounds show up differently for everyone, here are some you may recognize yourself:
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Replaying the betrayal over and over, or checking and rechecking for signs it will happen again.
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Feeling anxious, on edge, or unable to relax even when things seem calm.
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Swinging between wanting closeness and pushing people away.
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Struggling to trust your own judgment because you did not see it coming.
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Feeling numb, detached, or disconnected from people you love.
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Questioning continuing in the relationship.
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Noticing that conflict, criticism, or distance in your current relationships triggers pain that feels bigger than the moment.
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Carrying old wounds from childhood, from a parent who was absent, unpredictable, or unsafe, that still shape how you connect today.
These are not signs that something is wrong with you. They are the natural responses of a nervous system that learned connection could hurt.
How therapy can help after a betrayal or relational trauma
Healing from betrayal trauma and attachment trauma is not about simply moving on. It is about processing what happened, understanding how it shaped you, and slowly rebuilding your capacity for trust and secure connection. Our therapists draw from attachment-based, systemic approaches including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Internal Family Systems (IFS) and tools from the Gottman Method to help you make sense of your responses, care for the parts of you that were wounded, and change the patterns that betrayal left behind.
For couples healing after infidelity, we help both partners understand the trauma, rebuild safety step by step, and decide together what repair looks like.
For individuals healing from family-of-origin wounds, we help you understand your attachment story and build the healthier relationships you deserve, with others and with yourself.
Frequently Asked Questions about
Betrayal Trauma, Attachment Trauma, & Therapy
Can a marriage survive infidelity?
Yes, many marriages not only survive infidelity but eventually rebuild a stronger and more honest connection than they had before. It takes time, commitment from both partners, and a structured process for rebuilding safety and trust. Our therapists are trained to guide couples through affair recovery step by step, and we also help couples who ultimately decide to part do so with clarity and care.
What is betrayal trauma?
Betrayal trauma is the deep emotional injury that happens when someone you depend on for safety and connection, like a partner, violates your trust through infidelity, hidden addiction, deception, or abuse. Because the wound comes from inside a close relationship, it often produces trauma responses such as hyper-vigilance, intrusive thoughts, emotional flooding, and difficulty trusting yourself and others.
What is attachment trauma?
Attachment trauma develops when early relationships with caregivers were unsafe, unpredictable, neglectful, or absent. Those early experiences shape how you connect as an adult, and they can show up as anxiety in relationships, difficulty letting people close, or fear of abandonment. Therapy helps you understand your attachment story and build more secure connection.
Do I need to come with my partner, or can I come alone?
Both are welcome. Couples often come together to heal after betrayal, and individuals come on their own to process betrayal from a current or past relationship or wounds from their family of origin. During a phone consultation we can discuss what you might be looking for and see what would be the best fit for you.
Where can I learn about rates, insurance, and getting started?
Visit our general FAQ page for details about session rates, superbills, and our locations. Ready to take the first step? Schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation here.
Locations:
Oklahoma:
3408 NW 178th St
Office 1
Edmond, OK 73012
North Carolina:
Virtual
Our Mission:
Helping you and
your relationships flourish.
